WHY I'M NOT A FEMINIST / by Alison Capra

Alison Capra, Author, How NOT to be a Miserable Cow

According to webster’s, feminism is defined as a theory of political, economic and social equality of the sexes. Being organized on behalf of women’s interests.

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fem·i·nism | \ˈfe-mə-ˌni-zəm  Definition of feminism 

1: the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes

2: organized activity on behalf of women's rights and interests

Women throughout our history have changed the way we operate in America. WE being women. We have a voice, we have rights, we can drive, we can vote, we have rights to do whatever we want with our lives in this country. These women fought a battle for us that has seemingly been one of the largest things separating us from 2nd and 3rd world countries.

You see, they split feminism into waves. Apparently it was easiest for us to document history as it was defined by culture in a given era. There are many things that happened in all of these movements, but basically it breaks down like this:

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1st Wave: Women’s Right to Vote - Equal Rights in Marriage, Parenting and Property Rights

Basically all of the things that kept us from being bought and sold as property. Thank you first wave feminist, you rock.

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2nd Wave: Gender Discrimination - Women in the WORKFORCE, Paid Maternity Leave, Greater Access to Education.

Yay! We can finally leave the kitchen (if we want) and get into a career field of our choice!

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3rd Wave - Women’s Liberation Movement - No more Sexism - RIOT GIRL SUBCULTURE

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No longer are we fighting for actual rights and laws to change, now we are fighting the way our society sees women. Women were rebeling against the idea that we were put here to please men. Third wave feminism in America was brought about to change the definition of femininity as a culture. We have this time frame to thank for every amazing female musician that I grew up listening to.

OK HERE IT IS, HERE IS WHY I AM NOT A FEMINIST. NOT A FOURTH WAVE FEMINIST.

4th Wave - Defined by technology -#FEMINISM - Defined as a movement to stand against sexual harassment, rape culture and body shaming.

I’m sorry. This is not feminism. We have a responsibility to our country to properly define the message of what we stand for. You are telling me that this SHIT… wearing a pussy hat on your head in public is going to create social change and save me from being sexually harassed in my work place?

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What about this? You are telling me the millions of dollars the stores are making off of women is going back into empowering a community of women towards a unified goal? No, these shirts are made by children in factories in china. And a rich white man is cashing in on this chaos. I’m really sorry to break it to you. But without men, we don’t have a future. Creating a battle of the sexes is NOT working towards a healthy society. You want to be treated differently? You want to be taken seriously? PROVE YOUR INTELLIGENCE, BADASSERY AND SUCCESSES WITH ACTIONS, NOT WORDS.

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I am all for standing up and banning together as strong women. Empowering and inspiring one another to live our dreams. Encouraging other women grow. But I will NOT stand for a movement that separates us from men. Isolating and creating a confusing message to our daughters that all men are some kind of villain or sexual predator. A culture that CELEBRATES the fatherless. One that has created the idea that we do not NEED each other. No I am sorry. That is disgusting. Children need male AND female role models. I believe men and women without father figures will always struggle with their identity. Am I saying women can’t successfully raise children on their own? Absolutely not. I watch it every single day. It’s impressive. But you can’t tell me that it doesn’t take a village.

I have a responsibility, as an American woman with a voice, given to me by the strong women before me who had a REAL message. Women of first wave feminism that stood up to be INCLUDED in society NOT EXCLUDED. Women who fiercely fought for us to be second class citizens no longer.

Have I been sexually harassed? -Sure. I have I been a victim of domestic violence, sexual discrimination, forced intercourse. - Yes. but guess what. That does not define me. That is not my story. I have a responsibility as an American woman to stand up for families, fathers, husbands brothers who have provided countless opportunities for me, protected and provided for care of me.

4th wave feminist. - ya, I’m not WITH HER.

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DON’T JUST TALK ABOUT IT. BE ABOUT IT.

WHY DON’T WE MAKE A STRONG STAND AGAINST VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN AND SUFFERING IN THE COUNTRIES WHERE WOMEN ARE STILL BRUTALLY MUTILATED AND TRULY OPPRESSED? WHAT ABOUT WOMEN BEING SOLD INTO SEX SLAVERY? YOU WANT TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE?

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